Two people sharing their lives is a beautiful thing, but two people sharing their living space can get a little messy — both literally and figuratively. After all, combining two different sets of stuff, two different senses of style, and two different routines presents plenty of physical and emotional challenges. The good news is that once you figure out the logistics of moving in together, you can enjoy the many perks of having a romantic roommate, including getting to spend more time together, sharing the chores, and splitting the bills. Here are a few tips for a smooth move.
Pick a Place
The first step to moving in together is figuring out where you’ll live. Will you live in your place, their abode, or a new nest? When making the choice, there are several factors to consider.
Most people think how much space you need depends on how much stuff you have, and they’re not wrong. Closet space, cabinet space, and floor space are important when it comes to accommodating another person’s clothes, furniture, and other belongings. However, how you’re going to combine two people’s possessions into one space isn’t the only consideration.
When you’re deciding how many bedrooms, bathrooms, and closets you need, you’ll also need to consider your lifestyle. If you work from home, for example, a spare bedroom for your office may be a must. If you love to entertain, a smaller space with an open floor plan may be more functional than separate rooms with more square footage. In other words, when it comes to choosing the right-sized home, how you use your space is just as important as what you put in it.
Where you live has a huge effect on how happy you are with your daily routine. A house in the country with a porch swing may sound great, but the hour-long commute to work each way may mean you don’t have time to enjoy it. Similarly, that house across town that checks all the boxes may seem far away from your favorite restaurants, theaters, and walking trails until you figure out that the area boasts plenty of food, entertainment, and recreation of its own.
Make a list of what’s most important to you, like proximity to work and a safe, walkable area. If one of your places meets the requirements for both of you, that’s great! If not, determine which geographical areas do check all the boxes. To be sure, you can even check into an Airbnb in those areas to test out your commute, check out local features, and decide on a place you both love.
Living together means sharing expenses, including monthly rent or mortgage payments. However, that doesn’t always mean splitting everything 50/50. So, while no one likes talking about money, creating a household budget has to be one of your first steps when moving in together.